Change your thinking and ultimately change your life by implementing these 10 steps.

1. Examine the programming. We all grow up with messages from our pasts that shape our beliefs about ourselves. Have you examined those messages recently? What are they telling you about yourself?

2. Keep a notebook handy and write down any thoughts (self-talk) that evoke negative emotions. These include thoughts that make you feel defeated, sad, angry, afraid, unsure, or self-doubting. Once you have identified thinking patterns, it becomes easier to change them.

3. Now take action to change your self-talk. If your self-talk reflects any negativity, get rid of it. How do you do this? Replace self-defeating statements with positive, empowering ones. For example, replace “I can't do anything right” with “ I may not be able to do all things but I can certainly do some things and do them well.” Replace “I always forget” to “everyone forgets and it's not a big deal-just what it is to be human.” Changing your thoughts actually alters brain chemistry.

4. You cannot have an emotion without a thought preceding it. When you change your thoughts, you change the way you feel, and this radiates out into your life and affects its outcome. It's a domino effect: thought, emotion, action, outcome. Your thoughts can be a recipe for disaster or a recipe for happiness and personal fulfillment.

5. Self-sooth. Treat yourself as you would your best friend. We'll often comfort a friend while being unnecessarily hard on ourselves. Learn to comfort yourself when needed. Whenever you are stressed or need comfort, think or speak out loud using comforting words: “It's okay. It's all right.”.

6. Eliminate other people's “shoulds” from your life. Life is too short to put your dreams on the backburner while attempting to live up to another's expectations. When you become your own best friend, it becomes easier to stand up for what's important to you.

7. Give yourself permission to be the person you were born to be-without making apologies. When you truly value yourself, other people's opinions become less important.

8. Do not allow people to minimize your concerns or belittle you. Scrutinize your relationships and identify those that are emotionally unhealthy.

Choose friends who support you; limit association with those who drag you down.

9. Look to yourself as the best source of validation. You do not need others' praise to know you are worthwhile and a talented human being.

10. Create a life plan that embraces serenity, beauty, spontaneity, and time for fun.

When you change your thinking, you change your outlook and ultimately your circumstances. It's that simple. This is a sure-fire formula that will set you on the path to happiness and personal fulfillment.

通過以下10步，改變你的思維方式，最終改變你的生活。

1.檢查進(jìn)程。我們都是從過去過來的。過去的信息形成了我們的信念。你最近有沒有檢查過這些信息呢？它們告訴了你什么？

2.隨身帶一本筆記本，記下任何引起負(fù)面情緒的想法，包括讓你受挫、傷心、生氣、害怕、不確定、缺少自信的想法。一旦你識別了自己的思維模式，就很容易改變它們。

3.現(xiàn)在采取行動改變你的思維。如果你的思維折射出任何負(fù)面影響，立即處理掉。怎么做呢？以積極肯定的心態(tài)取代自我受挫感。比如說，將“我干不成一件正確的事”替換成“也許我不能做所有的事情，但是我肯定能做一些事情，并把它們做好。”將“我老是健忘”替換成“每個人都會健忘，沒什么大不了的，這是人類的通病。”改變想法，事實上就是改變大腦的化學(xué)過程。

4.沒有思維，就不會有情緒。一旦你改變了思維，你也改變了你的感受，而這些將折射到你的生活并影響結(jié)果。這是個連鎖反應(yīng)：思維，情緒，行動，結(jié)果。你的思維可以是災(zāi)難的配方也可以是幸福和成功的配方。

5.自慰。對待自己就像對待自己最好的朋友一樣。我們經(jīng)常安慰朋友，卻很難安慰自己。需要時，學(xué)著安慰自己。當(dāng)你感到緊張或需要安慰時，用安慰的詞語想或大聲說：“沒事。不要緊。”

6. 將別人“應(yīng)該做的事”從你的生活中剔除。如果你總是為別人而活，卻將自己的夢想擺在第二位，那么你的生命實在是太短暫了。一旦你成為自己最好的朋友，你將更清楚什么才是重要的。

7.允許你自己成為一個生來就不用道歉的人。一旦你真的珍惜自己，其他人的想法就會變得不那么重要。

8.不許別人忽視或小看你。仔細(xì)查看你的關(guān)系，并找出那些不健康的關(guān)系。選擇那些支持你的朋友，少聯(lián)系那些拖你后腿的朋友。

9.將自己看成最佳評判者。你不需要從別人的贊美中得知自己是個天才。

10. 制作一個擁有寧靜，美麗，自然，有趣的生活計劃。

一旦你改變了思維，你也改變外表，最終也改變了你的環(huán)境。這非常簡單并且一定會成功地讓你踏上幸福成功之路。